In His Own Words
About him
My life has fallen apart quite frequently. In 2001, my American wife and I were living in the Chicago area. I was diagnosed with heart failure via a pre-employment medical. Still managed to work at my dream job (ask me!) for the next decade but in 2010 had to have a pacemaker/defibrillator implanted and went on disability. Became foster parents (no bio kids), but then a few years later my heart function improved and my disability income was stopped. We lost our home and foster care license. Managed to find a driving job to help support us - then started having dizzy spells... Finally, in December 2023 my wife was diagnosed with metastatic kidney cancer - she went on ahead on June 7th 2024. Since then I've been grieving, moved back to the UK, and now trying to figure out what's next. Looking for PT remote work.
Interests:
Music (Seventh Angel to Springsteen to Sibelius)
Quantum mechanics (look at your hand - what is actually there?)
Cheese (and food in general, but cheese...)
Watches (Einstein said time is an illusion...)
Almost ready to self-publish my first book...
Faith:
The road less travelled (fundie Protestant to Anglican to Catholic)
The stories are true, Don't throw the Baby out with the bathwater...
Financial status:
Broke, but beneficiary to accounts in the US
Politics:
Anything not driven by money and the creation of fear
Mountains, hills, forests and streams
Such things are always in my dreams
Music and books, science and time
Now all I need is a partner in rhyme
(I'm not a criminal)
Laughing at myself is on my list
I'm a bit daft - you get the gist
But my serious side is often close by
And sometimes I've even been known to cry
I like to eat but I'm a terrible cook
Love a nice pub with a scenic overlook
Truth be told I'm TOO fond of food
Being overweight sometimes ruins my mood
My greatest desire is to publish my writing
Life got in the way though - but I'm fighting
Which is good, because 'there's some light
left in the world, and it's worth fighting for'
(Tolkien, via the movies)
About his ideal match
Honestly? I need a partner who has it together financially and isn't worried about opening her life to a guy who has been through some stuff. I am looking for permanent companionship, and the stability to focus on my writing as well as a suitable work from home job. I am wanting to get to know a special lady who is seeking something more than chatting and friendship. My late wife was my one and only - I offer absolute faithfulness, and not once in 25 years did I mistreat my dear wife physically. I am kind, gentle, generous, and a little (OK - a lot) goofy. I have never had a 'casual' relationship and am not looking to start now! I am not concerned by age (within reason - no-one under 40 need apply) or looks or disabilities. If you feel that you can thrive with an introvert who simply doesn't do loud, crazy social situations (apart from the occasional smaller gig) and can't/won't dance, then I'd love to hear from you... If you delight in visiting National Trust properties, watching the sea through the rain (or sun), poking round antique stores, staring at mountains through the trees, looking at photos of puppies on Facebook, hanging out at cosy pubs, all while listening to melodic music of all sorts... then send me a message. I am an ex-cigarette smoker, and currently use heated tobacco sticks (no lingering smell/ash/smoke) and vape. I cannot participate in strenuous physical activity, but am mobile other than that. In order to get my UK driving license renewed I need clearance from my Cardiologist.
Best wishes to you all in your search for your ideal match
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About him
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Rotherham, Yorkshire - South, England | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
54 | |
Star sign: |
Taurus | |
Height: |
6' 2" (188cm) | |
Body type: |
Large | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye colour: |
Blue-Green | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship; Marriage | |
Have children: |
No | |
Want children: |
Ask me later | |
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
E-cigarette User | |
Drinking: |
Occasionally | |
Education: |
Further education | |
Occupation: |
Other | |
Income: |
Solvent | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
None | |
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in Europe | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
40 - 70 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
5' 5" (164cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller | ||
Body type: |
Average; A few extra pounds; Curvaceous; Full figured | ||
Looks: |
Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Slightly important | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
No; Yes, not living with me; Yes, living with me sometimes | ||
Want children: |
Maybe | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | ||
Smoking: |
Never; Occasionally; Trying to Quit; E-cigarette User | ||
Drinking: |
Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable; Wealthy | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
English | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Jewish; Spiritual, but not religious; Christian / Orthodox |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Goofy |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The heart |
Personality traits: |
Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Shy; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Charity; Compassion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Mercy |
Fashion sense: |
Alternative (I'm stylish in my own special way) |
Favourite clothing: |
Shorts & a T-shirt |
Favourite colour: |
Green |
Hair style: |
Short |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses only when reading |
Body hair: |
Light |
Disabilities: |
I have a chronic illness |
Body art: |
A tattoo or two |
Date activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Alternative; Classical; Folk; New Age; Rock; Scottish; World |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly; I read magazines regularly |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Fantasy; Fiction; History; Non-fiction; Religious; Sci-Fi; Science / Technology; Travel |
TV habits: |
I don't have a television |
TV programmes: |
Cartoons; Documentaries; Motoring; Nature/Wildlife; Sci-Fi; Sport |
Movie frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Movie preferences: |
Art Films; Documentary; Independent; Sci-Fi |
Interests: |
Collecting stamps, coins, etc.; Computer & video games; Internet; Meditation; Music; Reading; The arts; Writing books; Writing poetry |
Sport involvement: |
Watching from the couch |
Sports: |
Bowling; Chess; Darts; Football (Soccer); Hiking; Motorsport; Snooker; Tennis; Walking |
Cooking: |
I cook rather than starve |
Food: |
Asian Fusion; Chinese; Fast food; Gastro Pub; German; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Pub Grub; Seafood; Sushi; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Pace of Life: |
Go with the flow |
Time online: |
I'm online more than I'm offline |
Take drugs: |
Never |
Family size: |
I've got brothers |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
For the right person, to the moon! |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Cat(s); Dog(s); Fish; Rodent(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Reptile(s) |
Dream home: |
In the country |
Retirement plans: |
Finally writing that novel |
Feelings about using Soul to Soul: |
Nervous; Hopeful; Curious; Optimistic |
Honesty: |
Extremely |