In His Own Words
About him
I spent many years living overseas which brought with it education and experience. I enjoy conversation, not the kind that just fills silence, but the kind that wanders, contradicts itself, reveals something unexpected, and lingers in your mind 3 days later while you’re brushing your teeth. I like my opinions tested in a polite way, of course.
I’m a loyal companion, once convinced you’re not an emissary of chaos, and dependable in the quiet ways that matter. I won’t tidy your bookshelf, but I will notice what’s on it and probably ask why that one’s spine is cracked.
Now semi retired, I’m a gently reconditioned human with a soft spot for Carl Jung and for anyone still curious about life and its refusal to behave.
I cook, paint, draw, and once played music until the reality of life and reason kicked in. I remain addicted to creativity but these days it’s mostly for my amusement or my grandchildren, who keep me grounded, entertained, and gently confused about where this world will end up. Until now, humans have had to deal with worldly things but the internet, AI and tech generally have cast humans into a world they are incapable of being responsible in. We are such a destructive specie, even towards ourselves.
I’ve had enough therapy to know the difference between introspection and self absorption, and enough life to know that most good things begin with patience, continue with laughter, and end in shared washing up, if we’re lucky.
I love good food, better conversation, and those evenings where time quietly disappears. I may not host quite like I once did, but I still know how to lay a table with care and listen in a way that lets the moment deepen.
I’m not looking for perfection, just someone honest, warm, curious, and done with performance. If you believe connection is still possible, even now, even at this stage of life, perhaps we might talk.
This is the winter of life. And winter, shared well, can be the most surprising season of all.
Photos all taken July 2025.
About his ideal match
I’m not chasing perfection, reinvention, or anyone still trapped in the costume department of life. I’m drawn to a woman at ease in her own skin, not because she’s flawless, but because she’s stopped pretending to be.
If you’ve read a little Jung and faced your shadow without fleeing, we will likely have plenty to talk about. Still, curiosity and courage will do just as well, rarer than polish and more human.
Honesty matters, not just with others, but with oneself. No masks, no curation, no memoirs rewritten mid conversation. If you can let silence breathe, speak with care, and share a glass of something decent without turning it into therapy, we will get along.
I believe trust and loyalty are the absolute cornerstones of a relationship. Passion might not always need them, but the kind of relationship I value certainly does.
You do not need to cook like a Tuscan nonna, but if you see meals as quiet rituals of connection rather than obligation, then you will understand what I value.
Perhaps you are artistic, musical, or simply alive to beauty and thought. You may have children or grandchildren, or simply a tender place for those of us who do.
Ideally, you are no longer chasing drama or mistaking excitement for depth. Above all, I hope you know who you are, or have stopped pretending not to. What I offer is simple: presence, warmth, wit, trust, and conversation. If you bring something similar, we may already be halfway there.
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About him
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Abingdon, Oxfordshire, England | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
71 | |
Star sign: |
Virgo | |
Height: |
5' 11" (180cm) | |
Body type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair colour: |
Grey | |
Eye colour: |
Blue-Green | |
Relationship Status: |
Divorced | |
Looking for: |
Just online friends; Activity partners; Friends; Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship; Marriage | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Occasionally | |
Education: |
Ask me later | |
Occupation: |
Ask me later | |
Income: |
Ask me later | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
German | |
Religion: |
Christian / Protestant |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Within 20 miles of postcode district OX14 (Abingdon) | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
60 - 71 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
5' 1" (154cm) - 5' 10" (179cm) | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic | ||
Looks: |
Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
Any | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | ||
Smoking: |
Never | ||
Drinking: |
Any | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
Any | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Christian / Orthodox |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Dry |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Faithful; Funny; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Philosophical; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Compassion; Forgiveness; Honesty; Humility; Humour; Kindness |
Fashion sense: |
Classic (My tastes echo long-established norms) |
Favourite clothing: |
My trusty pair of jeans |
Favourite colour: |
Blue |
Hair style: |
Short |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses |
Facial hair: |
None |
Body hair: |
Light |
Body art: |
I don't have any |
Date activities: |
Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk |
Music preferences: |
Blues; Classical; Folk; Jazz; Opera; R&B / Soul |
Reading: |
I read newspapers regularly; I read books occasionally |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Business; Fiction; History; Non-fiction; Religious; Science / Technology |
Movie frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Interests: |
Business news; Cooking; Healthy living; Investing; Meditation; Music; Painting; Photography; Politics; Pottery; Reading; Sculpting; Woodwork; Writing books; Writing poetry |
Cooking: |
I really enjoy cooking |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Manageable |
Time at work: |
I work only a few hours a week |
Family size: |
I've got brothers |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'm unlikely to move |
Religious attendance: |
Once a month |
Politics: |
Left of centre |
Feelings about using Soul to Soul: |
Jaded |
Honesty: |
Extremely |